A Girls Blog

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   Make a good first impression on everybody you meet. First impressions can make you or break you and you want every person you meet to remember you in a positive way. Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression and make sure it is good so people rethink you as a friend and might even talk to you again. So remember not to be too pushy or too shy. Keep a balance and even though most popular kids seem hyper don't try to act really cool or they will see through it! 

1. • Dont be annoying or nosy about everything. Be nice to everyone and say hi to people you dont normally say hi to, but dont walk up to people who are in a conversation and try to listen to them. It is just crazy what some people who think they are popular do! Keep yourself calm cool and collected! Act confidently but not "hot stuff make way" or "I'm way better than you". Always be friendly!
   • Make eye contact. Don't look at the floor. When you look at the floor that shows people that you're shy and want to be left alone. Keep your head up high and people will think that you're willing to try. That is the impression that popular people make! Confident and happy to be exactly who they are! They wouldn't change and you shouldn't have to to be popular!
   • Smile! You want to come off as friendly, don't you? If your teeth aren't exactly white, invest in some whitening strips. If whitening strips aren't for you then simply brush 2-3 time daily and floss once daily, it takes less than 10 minutes a day! If they aren't as straight as they could be, ask your orthodontist about braces. Once you get them off, your smile will be perfect. Another thing to consider is invisalign teen. They are clear and will still improve your beautiful smile!
   • Make sure you have good hygiene. Many people will be turned off if you smell bad, so make sure you brush your teeth twice a day, shower and wash your hair and body often, wash your face (there are many good brands of acne solutions, and masks also work well), and invest in deodorant/perfume, but make sure you do not overload in the perfume or people will be turned off. Good perfumes will make you look wealthy and make a good impression. Juicy couture has the best perfumes money can buy but no one can afford them so look for free samples to spritz every once in a while and on special occaisons! Also shave if you need to. I would not reccomend shaving legs! If can be painful and everyone does not have that hairy of legs as they think! It is unneccessary and even stupid in some cases! Shaving pits however is very neccessary and should be done regularly.
   • Be all ears. Pay attention to what the other person is saying. Don't concentrate on yourself so much that you don't catch the person's name. Most popular girls are depicted as people who only brag about themselves, but this is not the case. Talk and commpliment the person it will make them feel special and they will like you! People who are not too chatty come off as sincere and good natured!
   • Speak clearly. No mumbling! When it's your turn to speak, talk loudly and clearly, but don't shout. You don't want to scare them off.Be gentle with your voice but sound pleasant.
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   Become friends with the popular/friendly girls. Try to hang out with them for a while. Make sure to be polite to them. Learn about what's happening in the "in" crowd and pick up on the slang. You don't want to finally get in, and then have the most popular girl say something and have no clue what she is talking about.
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   Make an effort to stay in style. Try wearing makeup, or making a signature accessory. People say "Don't change, and just be yourself." This is true, but make sure to be your best self. Take it one step at a time, and build your confidence.
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   Be confident. Walk up, show the girls your stuff, and "wow" them. If your not comfortable with this then work on having people skills.
   • Know that there are many ways to change. You could change your dressing style, or become outgoing instead of shy. But don't change something big like your morals just to be popular.
   • Get your own clothes sense figured out. It’s no secret that style can get you far in the girl world. Go through your wardrobe and pick out what fits your style. You don't have to go over the top or shop everywhere. Find a store/brand that you like and always get stuff from that place. Get some fashion advice from magazines and friends.
   • Take your hair for a ride. While not essential, a change to your hair could be just the wake-up call you need to feel confident and get out there as a popular girl. As with everything else, make sure your hair is well-groomed and taken care of as often as possible.
   • Apply makeup carefully if you like putting on makeup. Even if you don't need makeup, putting it on can boost your confidence. While most popular girls wear makeup, it’s important to be tasteful about it.Makeup can help you to emphasize things you like about your appearance, and draw attention away from things you don’t. Concealer, mascara, lip gloss, and maybe some eyeshadow or liner, are all you need. Carry these things around with you in a cute bag for touch-ups. Just know that makeup is not to give a totally different appearance, but to emphasize your best features instead. For example, green eyes look amazing with natural tan eyeshadow.
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   Listen more than you talk. People will want to be around someone who makes them feel better about themselves, not someone who is clearly just planning the next thing they're going to say. So don't be chatterbox; you can't listen with your mouth open. Ask them questions, but not enough to sound like a stalker. People love a person who takes the time to find more about them.
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   Be empathetic. Popular girls know when someone needs a smiling friend, a compliment, or a hug. It's okay to be shy, but if you want to be popular, you have to smile, start conversations, and relate to people at their own level. That means talk about what the other person is interested in. Don't get stuck in the idea that you are shy or withdrawing. Realize that you are constantly changing, and that you are developing your social skills to the point where you could relate to all people. You have the right to change and grow.
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   Keep in mind the definition of popular: Many people consider you a friend and admire you. People are much less intimidated by someone who is friends with a variety of people and doesn't put anyone less lovely than themselves down. Strange how most 'populars' are cruel and discriminative huh?
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   Be confident. Stop thinking you are ugly or that you aren't cool enough. Everyone is either beautiful on the inside, outside, or both. Be comfortable with that! Think of your qualities for a while. You're cool through them. Just believe in yourself and let people know the real you.
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   Take care of yourself. This doesn’t mean you have to starve yourself. Rather, try to get into shape. Eating healthy and exercising everyday is important and effective; so is staying clean with good hygiene. Drinking plenty of water can help your skin look great and improve your overall health. If you get to the point where you feel good about your body and the great shape you keep it in, others will see that. Try yoga, swimming or aerobic dancing.
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    Be outgoing. Being shy won’t win you any new friends. You’re going to have to get out there and talk to people. You cannot be afraid to talk to others. Like people and show it! Be friendly and interested in people, and many of them will like you back. You don't win popularity by hiding in the corner or expecting people to approach you. If you're shy, make friends with really outgoing people. They will encourage you to talk to other people, and soon it will be easier for you.
    • Make sure to talk about things that other people are interested in. People can be very passionate when talking about their interests. Even if it's just walking from one class to another, find someone that has the same schedule as you do so that you can walk and talk. If you really feel like doing something will benefit you, ask a friend to do it with you.
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    Know the guys. If you want to be popular, you can't just be friends with the popular girls. Talk to the popular/friendly/kind guys and don't be afraid. Also, be flirty. This can prove for a fun conversation. Do this more often, and try to in the end have almost as many popular/kind guy friends as popular/kind girl friends. Remember, to be popular, you have to know all the popular girls, and guys have to like to be around you. That can't really be accomplished if you don't have any guy friends.
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    Get involved. Popular girls are usually well-rounded, and comfortable in almost every sphere of the school. Join a sports team or club. This will help you to meet many new people and establish yourself in the school. Be sure to do something you actually like, as people can tell when you’re faking. No one likes someone who does a sport or club just to be popular. Try to do an after school activity every day if possible.
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    Know what your body language is telling people. For instance, when you cross your arms your body language can give the impression, "Don't bug me." Another example is slouching - a sign that says, "I don't feel like I'm very important." Positive body language is all about how you feel about yourself and how you make others feel. The most popular people in school or at a party usually know how to make everyone else feel good by using plenty of positives gestures like nods, eye contact and, most important of all, a sparkling, warm smile.
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    Sometimes, playing innocent helps. Let's face it, being popular will definitely make you lots of new friends, but it will also probably lead to a few jealous stares. If a so-called "friend" makes a nasty comment, laugh it off, pretend that it wasn't hurtful at all, and be bubbly. Others will see this and appreciate the fact that you can laugh at yourself. Act like you enjoyed the comment and as if someone were telling you an actual joke. Always be polite, calm, mature and sweet, and don't spread gossip or isolate someone to get revenge.
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    Use Twitter, if you are allowed to. Twitter is a great way to get in touch with people you know. Remember, take plenty of pictures and post them right away. Show that you can make cute camera poses, and have fun with your friends. Try to get people to view your page, but don't stalk them! You could also use MySpace, Facebook, or other sites.
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    Remember that popularity isn't everything! You have to remember that you are only one of over 7 billion people. If being popular means you have to harm yourself or others, don't. Taking DRUGS or drinking is NOT okay for anyone. If popular people do that, then they are not "cool".
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    Stay fit and try working out a little bit. Trying different sports is a great chance to meet new people, especially the guys. Most guys like girls who are sporty and have a good personality, but some popular guys only care if you're popular and pretty, so be careful who you hang out with.
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    If you are not the sportiest person, go for clubs and committees. Check out what's new in your school's activity list. Volunteering is also a great way to get to know more people.
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    Keep updated in your society at school. Know what is going on around you. Also, you should do well in school. If you don't, you can send to other people that you don't want to be at school.
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    Read magazines. Girl magazines such as GL and Teen Vogue give lots of tips about beauty and fashion. You can also know what's "in" and what's not. However, don't follow this kind of stuff too much. You still want to dress and act like yourself, so no matter what, stay YOU. Don't be who you aren't!

Tips

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   Have a clique. Your close friends should love you, not worship you, actually, because that would be extremely freaky and could mess you up later in life. Your official "clique" should consist of 2-6 girls. They should be loyal, smart (no Karen Smiths- I mean you aren't Regina, right?), COOL, pretty, fun, well-dressed, and nice people. Be super nice to them- help them when they need it, give them little gifts sometimes, invite them to do fun things, etc. This will max out how much fun you have in life, and keep them loyal. Remember, though- you want true friends, not idol worshipers (if your less close friends and classmates worship and idolize you, though, that would be a good thing). If you think people are straying, or less loyal to you (friends or acquaintances or whatever) then get a secret from them- never do anything nasty with it, that's really low, don't even threaten to, they'll just assume and understand and be nicer- or at the very least, if they do stray, won't turn on you. Individual clique members vary, but here's a list, pick what you will

• The sidekick. She loves but doesn't particularly idolize you. It's perfectly safe to let on to her that you aren't perfect and mention your problems. Yes, there is a risk to this- but life without risks is boring. She is, in short, your Best Friend Forever. It's convenient if she's a slightly watered down version of you- not quite as fabulous, but quite fabulous. To avoid being boring, she should have some modifications- if you play tennis, she runs track, for example.
• The sweetheart. Not that you're all heartless people, but, you need one awesome nice girl in your clique, ideally. This is good because she can act as a buffer during fights, is great emotional support when anyone's feeling down, and is great at dealing with adults. She should still have similar qualities to the rest of your clique- fun, pretty, interesting, cool, smart- but softer and sweeter.
• The nice weirdo. [She's optional because she could confuse people about what kind of people you hang with.] The one most people ignore or even bully because she's judged without actually talking to her, and once you do you'll be overwhelmed and pleasantly surprised by how nice and delightful she is, even compared to the sweetheart, but adults and youth alike think of her as an unpleasant girl. She has a style of her own that could compare her to another group of people but ask her to tone it down a bit and try to be a bit more social for her and the "clique"'s sake.
• The pro. This girl has got talent- serious talent. Maybe she's an actress and practically runs the community theater. Maybe she's in the New York City ballet. Maybe she's in training for Olympic swimming. She's very busy, very with it, and looks great in whatever uniform or costume she has to wear for her niche. And yet still finds time for you guys? Well, who wouldn't?
• The party animal. No, she does not get trashed, stoned, and wasted. She's a blast and a half, yes- but she does it with class. She doesn't party all the time- it just feels like a party, being around her! She's witty, gorgeous, an amazing dancer... oh, um, yeah, did we mention how fun she is?
• The middle ground. She's basically your standard popular girl. Average, in the best sense of the word. If most of your clique is "out there" talented and outgoing, you need a little middle ground. So she's exactly that, to tone down the rest of the group. NOT to say she has no life other than popularity. Have you seen her calendar lately? But aside from, say, tennis lessons, she really is just interested in your basic teenage/preteen stuff. She's just better at it than any "basic" teen ever will be. Who's normal now?

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   Be confident! Though it sounds a tad bit desperate, type up exactly 1,000- no more, no less- reasons you rule. Read it about every other week, or whenever you need a pick-me-up. If that doesn't work, just try these tips:
   • If you aren't happy with how you look, here's a trick - put on way too much make-up. Every kind possible, to the point it looks really sickening. Then, wear it for an hour, during which you spend a lot of time looking in mirrors. Then wash it all off, and look in a mirror again - see how cute and fresh faced you look? That's how the world really sees you.
   • Go fish. Ask a family member or close friend what they like about you.
   • Listen to music from both sides of the story. First listen to "Ugly" by Brie Larson. Then listen to "Beautiful" by Christina Aguilara. See the contrast? Not to say that this is all you can listen to- but feel good type songs versus sad ones really can give you a boost.
   • Tackle something. Something big. Clean your room, even. Ouch. Did you just throw something at me? Once you see how far you've come (lower the stiletto and nobody gets hurt, Okay?) it'll make you feel great.
   • Tackle something long term. Take up tennis or ballet or modeling or whatever, and do great in it. It really will make you feel good.
   • Get new underwear. Lame sounding, I know. Potentially pricey, I know. Especially if you want it to be really cute. But it'll make you feel hot.
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   Look good. Scratch that- look amazing. From the top down...
   • Hair can be the defining feature, can make or break the bod. So be nice to yours. Take a shower daily, with decent shampoo or Marc Anthony. Wash your hair thoroughly and for a solid 3 minutes at least. Get a good lather going, really massage your scalp. Next, condition with a conditioner that complements your shampoo, leave the conditioner in for 2 minutes, and rinse out. Repeat if you want, and for extra silky hair, and wash with lotion once in awhile. Remember- if your hair's soft and clean, it'll be very, very shiny. Blow dry if you want it to be straight, or if you have to be somewhere- NEVER show up anywhere whatsoever with wet hair. Next, brush with a quality brush (boar bristle is best) and style as desired. Don't use too much gel or spray, though. Just a tiny, tiny bit is good. If you have to. Your best bet for a hair cut is short hair. Why? Because it's actually more feminine. If you have short hair and still look like a girl, it means that you're feminine through and through, and don't need to prove anything by growing 6 feet of hair (plus, it's easier to keep it nice this way). It also looks very sophisticated. So get it cut around shoulder length, layered, and maybe side swept bangs and a bit of a flip. Get your hair cut every 4-8 weeks, and go to the same stylist and salon every time. Get something special, like highlights or a gloss treatment once in awhile, too. Some popular hairstyles are: flippy with the top part pulled back, Messy buns with one of those skinny headbands, two skinny headbands, crimped in a half ponytail with a skinny headband... you get that skinny headbands are always in, right?
   • Your face should be clean, clear, and cute at all times. Don't get salon facials, as a good one will make your face blotchy and gross for a day before it kicks in- do them at home, with mud masques, every other week or so. Get a skin prescription to keep acne at bay (a blackhead or two is fine and you can still look gorgeous, but a pimple the size of a pineapple is not exactly what we're going for) ask your doctor, don't count on proactiv. Wear only natural make-up, so that you don't actually look like you're wearing make-up. Besides, guys hate it when you look painted and nobody will consider you pretty if they think you owe it all to sephora. Tinted moisturizer, concealer, face powder to set, mascara, lip gloss, some rosy blush and maybe neutral eyeshadow is all you really need.
   • You should have good oral hygiene. Brush your teeth, floss, and use mouthwash and mints. Brush your teeth and tongue two to three times a day (not in school, though). If you need a motive to brush, use flavored toothpaste, like cinnamon, vanilla, or lemon. Use crest white strips if necessary.
   • Take showers every day, and scrub everywhere thoroughly with a loofah and good soap.
   • Shave/ wax any hair that you think needs removing. This should not include your head. It keeps things clean, smooth and good-looking.
   • Stay in shape. Run track, do pilates, whatever it is, it's better to eat a little junk food and exercise than to lounge on the couch and eat nothing but celery.
   • Get manicures and pedicures professionally about every other week, but do your own when you need to. Use great nail polish, though, so it seems cooler.
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   Get the attitude. Not "an attitude" but "the attitude". Don't be evil. Be sweet to anyone you can possibly stand to be sweet to, civil to anyone you can possibly stand to be civil to, and if you can't handle them, try to avoid them. Don't be a goody two shoes- if someone jabs, jab back a little- but just remember that truly popular people don't need to bully- they're cool enough that their stats doesn't depend on it. The queen never openly attacks anyone- it's more the commoners, the nervous middle classes, that do it. If someone in your circle disses you, don't dump her, demote her a tiny little bit and get a secret from her- this is more effective, and less mean.
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   Dress Cutely. You know what the popular brands are (Abercrombie, American Eagle,Topshop, Hollister, Forever21, Old Navy, Aeropostale, GUESS?, Tommy Hilfiger, etc). If you want to go the extra mile: Juicy Couture, Marc Jacobs, Urban Outfitters, American Apparel. You want to look extremely classy. Be casual but fabulous. Wear amazing clothes, and have great style. And please, don't snub people for weird outfits, that's THEIR style and that's how THEY want to dress. Dress however you want but obviously, don't go to a dance wearing a tennis dress. You should love your outfits. The first step to getting everyone to want to be like you is looking great. You really cannot wear a five thousand dollar Oscar De la Renta gown to English class, and it might not even be advisable for your next school dance. Just brand name jeans, a lace edged top, and a Henley over it can work wonders. And don't forget jewelry and shoes! Have at least one pair of designer shoes, preferably heels or flats, and otherwise just have a lot of shoes, even if they aren't the greatest brands, because it's the mark of being girlie. For jewelry, never wear anything tacky or fake looking, get only quality jewelry, so no tacky plastic rings with glitter. It doesn't have to be 100% Tiffany, just so long as it's good quality. If you want people to follow your lead (or at least love you for your style), you need to show that you are a genuine person, and fake jewelry is most certainly NOT genuine. Diamond studs work wonders. And a designer purse. Knock-offs are fake, and fake bags are for fake people. Now, you don't want to be fake, do you? So the lesson there is, NO KNOCK-OFF PURSES, they don't look real and everyone knows it, you're not fooling anyone. Also, stay away from very flashy colors since this makes you look tacky and makes it seem like you're trying too hard to grab attention. Jeans should be a great fit, not making your hips overlap the edges (thus, muffin tops are born). Read fashion magazines to be inspired by the newest looks. I highly advise Nylon.
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   Learn to handle gossip delicately. Listen, babe, there is no way people can totally refrain from gossiping. It's how you do it that counts! Don't ever gossip about your close friends, and only trash someone behind their back if you think they deserve it said to their face- don't say it to their face, though, that's horrible. Make sure to only gossip with your trustworthy best friends, too. It's nothing whatsoever to be proud of, but it's human nature. Or, well, okay, girl nature.
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   COME BACKS: If a girl keeps annoying you, use some of these comebacks. Calling me ugly won't make you any prettier, calling me poor won't make you any richer, calling me fat won't make you any skinnier.

Tips

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   Gather all of the items on the list. You can replace the salt with sugar, but you can't substitute any of the other items. Make sure you have each and every one of them.
   
   

   
   
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   Rub olive oil onto the area of skin. Pour a generous amount of olive oil onto the area and rub it in well. Cover the entire area, and rub in with massaging, circular movements. Don't be too hasty with this step, as it's essential.
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   Exfoliate with the salt. Pour a healthy amount of salt onto the area and scrub the area thoroughly. Don't be rough, as you may hurt your skin, but don't be afraid to really scrub, either. This is essential, as it will remove dead skin and help it become extra soft.
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   Leave it in for 10 minutes, and if you want to, keep scrubbing the salt in every now and then. Try to be patient with this step, because if you don't leave it in for ten minutes, your skin's not going to come out too soft.
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   Wash the mixture off, preferably with lukewarm water. Don't wash with soap or a cleanser-- you want to leave some olive oil in to keep your skin really soft.
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   Moisturise. Get a generous amount of moisturiser and rub it into the area. Make sure you actually rub it in-- otherwise it's not going to have the maximum effect.